Now Men…

Do me a favor…

         Listen to what I am about to say… because I may just have figured out the little bit of advice you need to really get a leg up in the game when it comes to what your girl wants.

*** Disclaimer, this post does not in any way apply in the same context to every single woman out there. Each woman wants something different, so that being said, this post is only coming from MY point of view, and the point of view of quite a few of my friends and the women I’ve talked to about this topic. ***

         For just a minute I’d really like to talk about the weird, kind of taboo, topic of women’s fantasy writing. I feel like this genre of writing is just extremely underappreciated by male readers in particular. I’ve had my fair share of men utter something similar to what I said above, usually along the lines of “where is our Women 101 book”. To which I usually reply that if you would just listen you might know what we want. But when I’ve said that in the past I guess I forgot to remember a very important fact of life.

         In all honesty, men and women speak two entirely different languages. I think my boyfriend would agree with me that we’ve had conversations for hours before, saying the same things over and over again and trying to get the other to understand where we are coming from, before sitting back and realizing we just aren’t speaking the same language. I don’t mean one of us is legitimately speaking Latin or something, but we might as well be when we realized that the words we are using just have different meanings and different contexts to each of us. But I think the one thing that we can all agree is pretty universal is talking dirty.

         When it comes to what we really want when it comes to romance, foreplay, flirting, dating, etc, I think you can reliably look at what your girl reads to figure out what it is she really wants. Sure, your girl might seem like some run of the mill southern sweetheart, but then you look at the books she reads when you aren’t around and you just might be surprised at the male protagonists that become the center of her fantasies when you aren’t right there.

         There is an entire industry built around female writers that elaborate, in an unapologetically sexy way, the type of relationships that women fantasize about. I’m not saying every woman wants some closet kinky billionaire with an ego issue. But what I am saying is, and here is the million dollar advice I have to offer you…

Look at what your girl reads, and maybe if you really want to impress her, read it.

         You don’t have to read the entire three book series, but flipping through the pages of your girl’s favorite books might just give you a little peek into the kind of foreplay and attitudes that really get your girl thinking. I mean women have literally written you hundreds and hundreds of books filled with stories of these normal everyday women and the men that they fall for. Whether its the tall dark and handsome stranger, the guy who steps in to defend you at the bar, the blast from the past that smiles at you for a second too long, or the sweet stranger that buys your coffee and then asks to sit down with you, what she reads will tell you something.

         Not much of a reader… this can apply to movies too. If your girl doesn’t spend hours reading, maybe the chick flicks she’s been watching can shed some light on the subject… just an idea. 

         I mean like I said, this may just be me and the women I’ve talked to, but the general consensus has been, we read about what we want, what we wish we had. Some of us are lucky enough to have found that person that makes us whisper under our breath when he’s around, but if not, you can be damn sure we read about him whenever we get the chance.

Just food for thought,

Love always, Me